tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post2346859122509281476..comments2023-09-21T07:54:14.586-07:00Comments on Expectant Hearts: Walking With You - Wounding Words, Healing WordsKathryn @ Expectant Heartshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08629955139973507828noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-4061336601923340062009-10-03T07:44:54.018-07:002009-10-03T07:44:54.018-07:00I came over to your blog this morning from Hallelu...I came over to your blog this morning from Hallelujah Anyhow. I want to extend my sympathy to you in the death of your son. I lost my youngest at age three years and I remember the thing that meant the most to me was other parents who just came and cried with me. No words were necessary.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12770750648145547973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-66805832172682230902009-08-18T16:37:11.876-07:002009-08-18T16:37:11.876-07:00I hate it when people think that one loss is great...I hate it when people think that one loss is greater than another. How can they possible know that? How can they put the worth of one life over another? I think people need to know that if you don't know what to say then don't say anything. Just give a hug.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-16017492087880009532009-08-15T15:58:02.639-07:002009-08-15T15:58:02.639-07:00I found this post: http://gitzengirl.blogspot.com/...I found this post: http://gitzengirl.blogspot.com/2009/08/castaway.html from Gitz/Sara Frankl very helpful. :)Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03272307621143522274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-53734522312811374752009-08-15T14:30:23.811-07:002009-08-15T14:30:23.811-07:00yes.
i just kept nodding through this whole post,...yes.<br /><br />i just kept nodding through this whole post, thinking, "yes, i totally understand."<br /><br />people mean well, right? then how can they say the most hurtful things about the most painful things in our lives???<br /><br />i'm learning - like you said - to be grateful for the people who really understand.<br /><br />love you,<br />jessJesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00887437830228313453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-41810381372236269512009-08-15T09:43:01.171-07:002009-08-15T09:43:01.171-07:00People can be so clueless! Our society has a tend...People can be so clueless! Our society has a tendency to want to fix or make better every situation & doesn't respond well when a situation cannot be fixed or made better. So, some folks come up with thoughtless comments trying to gloss over that. I'm sure the person speaking to you didn't mean to be cruel, but that doesn't negate the feeling.<br /><br />Also, i think there is a tendency in some to do a one-up. "My hurt is worse than yours," or "You can't hurt as much as So&So cause ________ happened to her." I don't know why this is, but it is often a response. <br /><br />On a different issue, but just as painful, i had a lady at church take me to task recently over my health issues. I'm so thankful i didn't talk to her about miscarriage & infertility! That would have been so painful.<br /><br />It is hard not to compare & say thoughtless things, sometimes. We who have no children sometimes tend to think we "corner the market" on pain, but that is not true. We each have . . . i'm so sorry this has happened to you. I pray each time i comment here that i don't do something similar, as it can be so easy to wound each other. <br /><br />I do pray that time will heal the open wound but i know it won't change the hurt. God's blessings on you.Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03272307621143522274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-77092151869257460682009-08-14T16:19:53.148-07:002009-08-14T16:19:53.148-07:00Hi Kathryn...I was so excited to see that you won ...Hi Kathryn...I was so excited to see that you won MckMama's contest! Now...for this post. I am so sorry for the comment made by that misinformed individual. How can we...and why do some people try to place different values on life? Life lost at any age is something worth grieving. All life has value. Seth is your son...no different than any of your children. I am sorry also for the way people sometimes seem to judge our performance as we grieve. Even as I say this...I know, I don't always say the right thing or judge rightly. We all need God's grace in this area! <br /><br />Thanks for the Walking With You suggestion. I'll include that!<br /><br />Praying God's continued comfort, sweet friend...<br /><br />Love to you...Kelly @ Sufficient Grace Ministrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11182310611088290551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-65763770628144137042009-08-14T09:02:59.176-07:002009-08-14T09:02:59.176-07:00I can so relate to this. My sweet son Nathan also ...I can so relate to this. My sweet son Nathan also passed away from HLHS this past May at the age of three months. It does seem that people regard the death of an infant as somehow less painful than the death of an older child. <br /><br />I am so sorry for your loss. Seth was a beautiful baby. <br /><br />Kind regards,<br />Sarah<br /><br />P.S. I found your blog through McMama's - I don't have a blog but here is my son's Caring Bridge page: <br />caringbridge.org/visit/nathand.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-1879591515431989322009-08-14T08:17:52.137-07:002009-08-14T08:17:52.137-07:00Great post Kathryn. I don't know why people al...Great post Kathryn. I don't know why people always feel like they have to justify a death or a diagnosis. Or why they want to put a positive spin on it. "At least you're blessed with other healthy children" is one I've heard. I think it just makes everyone so darned uncomfortable that they'll say anything so that it makes it OK for them to move on to another subject. If only they understood that it only compounds the grief when a child's death is treated almost non-chalantly. Thanks for putting this out there. Blessings.<br /><br />EthelLucy and Ethelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01034416537494911411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3195625730122318343.post-75710909490158053272009-08-14T07:43:52.783-07:002009-08-14T07:43:52.783-07:00I just don't understand why some people think ...I just don't understand why some people think that the age of your child has a factor in the pain that you feel ever single day. I feel like Isaiah is looked upon the the very same way. It's a sad way to look at the life of a human being. Thank you for sharing this point in your post. God Bless.<br /><br />Love,<br />JennyJennifer Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14619769165667422761noreply@blogger.com