Tuesday, October 13, 2009

In Other Words Tuesday - October 13, 2009

Before I jump into "In Other Words Tuesday", late but with both feet, I need to take care of a family matter. TODAY is my "Little" (as in 13 months younger than me and several inches taller) sister's birthday!! And it's a big one but I won't embarrass her by saying which one here.

Happy Birthday, Kari!!!! I love you. May the next years be as blessed as these first were!

And now onto our quote of the day:

“It has been well said that ‘earthly cares are a heavenly discipline.’ But they are even something better than discipline- they are God’s chariots, sent to take the soul to its high places of triumph. They do not look like chariots. They look instead like enemies, sufferings, trials, defeats, misunderstandings, disappointments, unkindness.” Hannah Whitall Smith

I chose this quote several months ago for TODAY. Yesterday was one year since we kissed our youngest son goodbye and he was ushered into Heaven. It hasn't been an easy year. I stumbled across that quote reading a book, I'm disappointed that I can't remember which book it was, but it may have been Heaven by Randy Alcorn. When I found it and reserved today, I was hoping that I would SEE more evidence of it in my life. You see, I KNOW the above to be true, I believe it, even when I don't feel it.

Several years ago, when my husband and I were just starting our parenting journey, our first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I was crushed. Disappointment doesn't even begin to describe what I went through at the time. While my husband and I were not walking with the Lord, I had been raised in a household that believed in God and I knew that God was a God of miracles and hope. I couldn't understand why we would be given this glimpse of joy and have it snatched out of our lives. I began seeking in earnest.

Ultimately, I wound up at the office of a Christian counselor and reading many christian authors. The one year "anniversary" of that date found me at a local cemetery that has a "memorial to the unborn", reading a letter I had written, pouring my heart out, and giving my life back to God. But it took a year. And a big disappointment. At the end of that year, I realized that God was simply waiting for me to open my heart to Him. If THAT wasn't one of "God's chariots", I don't know what would be!

Not having Seth here with us has been a suffering, a trial, a defeat, a misunderstanding. I stop short of calling it an "unkindness" because I believe strongly in the benevolence of God. However, unkindness have been endured because of the situation incurred by being a bereaved parent. And still, God shows up. The comfort that I have received, from the Lord, and from people who love the Lord, has been nothing short of amazing (especially yesterday). I'm learning the "heavenly discipline" of seeking comfort from the Lord as it's pretty difficult to find it in earthly ways.

I wanted to be able to write this post and share the many LARGE victories and triumphs I have experienced since "losing" Seth. By worldly standards, my triumphs likely seem small. Sometimes by MY standards I am disappointed that the Lord hasn't brought me further along (by now, etc). (Still learning that "heavenly discipline" of patience!). But triumphs HAVE been experienced. I grieve with hope! I more readily than before Seth, turn first to the Lord for comfort. In seeking answers, I am learning to wait on the Lord.

But here's the biggest thing. A friend took me to lunch yesterday. We shared some memories of Seth. I cried a little. And then I laughed a little. I still laugh. My family still laughs. That we still find joy is a testimony to the Lord's reigning in our lives, and a triumph of the soul!

Please link up below and visit others to see what THEY have to say about this quote!


Betsy Markman said...

God bless you as you continue to grow towards Him!

Debbie said...

Kathryn, I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child. My heart goes out to you, especially today. May Christians sisters comfort you and may the Lord Himself comfort you.

Thank you for hosting us this day. It was a challenging quote but I'm glad you used this one.


Denise Hughes said...

"I grieve with hope!" What a powerful testimony. To grieve with hope is something that can only come from heaven above. My heart goes out to you and all you've endured.

The quote you chose for today gives cause for some reflection. To see "trials" as "chariots" is a metaphor I'll be thinking on for a while.

Thank you for opening your heart and sharing what God has been doing in your life.

MiPa said...

First, (((hugs)))
Second, I believe that it shows a chariot that you can even write a post on this subject on this date.

God's timing in teaching us is rarely our own. Bravo to you that you are able to see lessons along the way while acknowledging that it is "just hard." Praying for you and your family today.

Karen said...

What a blessed story. A rough journey indeed. May God continue to bless your family. Thanks for hosting today. Sorry I'm so late in joining in on the fun. I went for a chariot ride of my own. :)

Lucy and Ethel said...

I wanted to share a link with you of another HLHS family who lives relatively close to us! I don't remember how I found Nikki's blog (http://chadandnikki.blogspot.com/), but I about fainted to see where they live!

I just sent her the link to your blog. Their baby, Johanna, is due to be delivered on the 23rd.

Lots of hugs from NC -


Holly said...

Thinking of you today on Remembrance Day and also for Seth's one year angelversary earlier this week. They are never far from our thoughts and always in our hearts.

JD said...

Holding you in my prayers...